Happy national siblings days everyone! Let me tell you a bit about my sibling situation. I’ve got 3 siblings of my own ( 2 sisters and 1 brother), I’m the second oldest and there is a good 8 and 9 years gap between me and my younger 2 siblings. I’m pretty much their second mom (as much as they deny it). And then I’ve got an older sister, who is married therefore I have a brother in law as well. Now on my in laws side of the family, my husband has 1 brother and 1 sister and both are married. So in total I have 4 in-law siblings. Okay let me count that for a second, 3 siblings and 5 in-law siblings, if you can do the math that makes 8….wow! Talk about a big family.
I would be lying if I said I am close to all 8 of them, because lets be real that’s impossible! However I have a good relationship with all of them and I’m grateful for that. Each one unique in it’s own way.
So back to my 3 siblings, we all grew up fighting (like all siblings). I had more fights/arguments with my older sister as we clashed (maybe because we are so close in age). But like many adults we have matured and no longer fight, and she’s given me a great brother-in-law and the cutest nephew. On the flip side my relationship is a bit different with my younger siblings. Since I helped raised them I always feel like I need to step into their lives and help them out, even when they don’t need it. Sometimes I can’t believe that their in there 20’s….it blows my mind. My childhood would have not been the same without these 3 human beings. I have learnt many things from them and I continue to do so on a regular basis. I may not see them on a regular basis as we live in different provinces, but with the help of technology I don’t feel like I ever miss out on a thing. Also the older I get the more RESPECT I have for them and their separate lives. I feel that is so important, because we tend to not respect the way our siblings choose to live their lives. Just because we share the same parents and the same family values, doesn’t mean we should think and act alike.
Now my in-law siblings, what would I do without these 4. They have become a huge part of my life. Because we are all similar in age, we can sit around the dinner table and have mature conversations…..unless were drunk, then it get’s emotional . Since 3 of us are married into the family, we bring something different to the table. We all have our strengths and weakness and help bring out the best in each other. Over the last 6 years we all have shared some huge moments in our lives that has shaped and strengthened our relationships. These 4 haven’t seen me in my childhood but have seen me evolve in many ways over the years (one being a mom). Because of them I never feel like I am far from my own siblings because they are also my own.
Now before you think my life is all rainbow and sunshine, it’s not always…haha! When you have so many different individuals in a family there’s bound to be different opinions which sometimes leads to difficult situations. But it’s how you deal with these situations. No opinion, or argument is bigger than your relationship with your siblings or in-law siblings. The biggest lesson that I have learnt over the years with all 8 of them is, I have to respect their decisions. I might not agree with them, but I have to allow myself to respect the way they choose to live their lives. When you do that, you remove all expectations and disappointments out of the picture. You allow them to be them. Family support is so important, it can make or break a person……so be kind to your siblings!
And lastly I would like to thank the universe for giving me not 1 or 2 but 8 amazing individuals who I can call my siblings.